Care, Concern, and Worry

IS CARING = CONCERN = WORRY ???

Do you worry about anything in life?

Yes, I do. Almost all of us do worry about our children, husband, parents, other family members, and friends.

Read also: What is the difference between care/ concern and worry?

Is it? Why do you worry?

I care for my kids and family. So, when they are in some problem, it is natural to worry. If someone on the road meets with an accident, I will try to help and not worry, but if someone from my family meets with an accident, I will help and will worry too much because I love them. “Where there is love, there is a worry”.

“The truth need not be proved; truth has the power of revealing itself to the world.” 

When do you worry?

I worry when

• Any of my closely related family members and friends are in trouble.
• Something bad has happened in the past.
• About the future because of some problems in the present or in the past.

Is it natural to worry about our loved ones?

Of course, yes. When I say “I love my family”, it means I care for them, and I am concerned about them. So it is natural to worry about them. Parents worry about their kids, grandparents, work, finance, health, etc.

I do not know whether it is right or wrong, but it is natural. It happens to all. Certain feelings towards certain people come naturally, I don’t create them.Let us talk only about YOU, not all because when we say “all”, we feel it is right (since everyone does it). Let us focus only on what you feel and what you do. “What everyone thinks/ does, need not be right always.”
OK.

Have you ever been jealous of someone?

Does worrying help you in any way?

Hmmm…. No, but it happens. I feel tired and drained out when I worry. Exactly. This is what happens when we worry.

Let us see “What is worry?” 

Worry is an anxiety that we create mostly based on something fictional, which has not yet happened. It is a story that we create based on some past incident, it is an imagined virtual future that we create in our minds.
We say that I am worried when I create thoughts like

• “Oh, my child has not yet started speaking, what will happen if he continues like this? Other kids have started reciting rhymes; does my child have any problem…..?”
• My husband does not speak normally to me nowadays. Is something wrong with him? Does he not like me? Is something wrong with me? Has he got any new friend whom he finds better than me or is he into any affairs…..??
• “My daughter is 25 years old, she is too career-oriented. She does not accept the marriage. How long can she remain a spinster? She has some minor health issues now, what if it increases later and no one accepts her? Will she remain all alone throughout her life? After my gone, who will take care of her……?

At times, children too worry like:

· I got low marks this time, and I slept in class too, and I think my teacher does not like me. She might be partial to me, she will not make me the leader of the class, she hates me, she may not give me a chance in cultural activities, I will be ignored, my friends also may not like me, I will be lonely, no one likes me….

People generally worry because they feel it is right; they feel it is good to worry. In fact, if you don’t worry, there will be many people around you to say, “Look, she doesn’t care for her family at all, she does not worry even a little. Does she love her family? Is she concerned a bit at least?”